Well, Halloween is over, and it is time to get ready for Thanksgiving and Christmas. What a year it has been!
This year we are without my Mom and my Mother-in-law. They both passed away within 6 months of each other.
As with most families, it is the older generations that are the glue that holds the family together. We are without our glue, and are all floundering. What do we do? Do we do the same thing we always have? Do we start new traditions? How do we all handle these special times without our glue?
Grieving is different for everybody. You miss your spouse, mother, sister, brother, etc.. all in different ways. It is so hard watching the Dad's grieve for their spouses. It breaks your heart, because you can't do anything to replace a spouse. As, I am sure it is hard for them to watch us grieve for our Mom's, whom they can't replace.
But, one thing I do get tired of hearing all the time is "they are in a better place now". I KNOW everybody means well, and I do believe, in my heart, this to be true. But, I will NEVER, EVER, say this to another person who has lost somebody. Why??? Because right now, I don't give a flip if they are in a better place!!!! I want them here with us. We miss them, and want to give them one more hug and kiss.. and to tell them we love them!! Maybe someday, I can accept they are in a better place, but not yet!
So... what to do? As always, I suppose, we will take it one day at a time, and rely on each other. Family and friends... it is what gets you through these hard times. We will figure out a way to make this year bearable... for the kids especially! The kids are what we concentrate on now. They are what we pour our heart and soul into.
After all, it is what our Mom's (the glue) would want us to do.